Love and Happiness

21 04 2009

p1010021_0021_021What does LOVE look like?  How would you describe love?  How would you describe Happiness?  I think these two things are often intertwined.  Happiness and Love are two very different things!

What does happiness look like?  You are happy when you first meet someone special because they are something new to you.  They are someone that you would like to find out more about.  It’s the Lure of the new Adventure.  What happens when you learn more about that person?  You start to lose some of the Adventure.  You start to lose the butterflies that you used to get.  How do you get those butterflies back?  Do you chase the butterflies?  No!  You chase the person who brought the butterflies.  Now this can be dangerous.  If you’re in a relationship and you start losing the butterflies, you need to be aware that Satan wants to break down your relationship.  Especially if it’s a Christian relationship.  Nothing gives the Devil more gratification that ruining a Union that God brought together.  How’s he going to do that?  He’s going to be whispering little lies in your head.  “That guys really nice to you, I think he might even like you.  You’re significant other doesn’t make you feel that way.  That’s because you don’t Love him anymore.  This person gives you those nice butterflies that you’ve been chasing for so long.  This is what will make you happy!”  All LIES!.  Yeah you will get those butterflies.  Just like you did when you were stealing candy or clothes from a store.  It’s nerves.  It’s the excitement of doing something wrong when you could get caught.  Is it really worth it though.  Is stealing that shirt going to really change things?  Is it going to make you happy?  No!  It’s going to hold you over for a little bit before you want those butterflies again.  Same concept.  When you’re with someone for a while, you start losing the butterflies.   That’s when you have to spice things up.  Not sexually, just in general.  Be spontaneous, go on a trip last minute, make a spontaneous purchase, give your significant other a random gift to show that you still love them.  Now here’s the difference between LOVE and HAPPINESS.

HAPPiNeSs is something that HAPPENS.  Love is an action.  It’s a choice.  I choose to breathe everyday because it keeps me living.  If I stop choosing to breathe, I die.  If you stop choosing to love, you’re LOVE will DIE!  Is that clear enough.  Whenever you choose to live life with someone else, you’re always going to have bumps in the road.  You’re always going to have quarrels.  That’s the way we are.  God made marriage for two people to come together, get over their selfish ways, and completely and wholly give their lives to each other.  It’s a sacrifice.  It’s a commitment to God saying, “God, I know you LOVE me and I know you’re GOOD, I will choose to get my HAPPINESS from You and Love my spouse unconditionally because that’s what I agreed to and that’s what you ask of me”.  I’m talking about marriage here.  Marriage is not a temporary thing.  When you get married, you give a piece of you to your spouse.  They will forever be with you.  They know your quarks, your imperfections, your intimate areas, and that person will always have a piece of your most intimate experiences.  That will affect you for the rest of you’re life.  Finding someone else who gives you those “butterflies” will not fix your problems.  They will lose the butterflies too and you’ll be in the same position.  Spending years of your life giving pieces of yourself to multiple people, and not truly be able to give all of yourself to one person.  That’s LIFE!  Choose to Love everyday anew, and God will honor you in that. I’ve seen too many marriages go to crap because they see greener grass.  Take the time to water, trim, feed, and nurture you’re own grass and no other grass will ever compare.  That’s still a choice that you have to make.  I pray that you do, and I pray that you’re marriage is blessed for your hard work.  God bless.




One response

21 04 2009
Vanessa Boring

i love it! Your’re a good man 🙂 God bless to you and your wife 🙂

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