My new Mission in Marriage

16 12 2008

I’ve decided last night that I’m going to do my part in my marriage.  God has called us to Love our spouse with everything we have and honor Him in it.  I’ve decided that I’m going to make that my mission.  I’m going to love Danielle regardless of if the house is clean, or she has her homework done, or even harder yet, she has done anything for me lately.  “What have you done for me lately”.  Remember that song?  Anyways, this is one of those “Pay if Forward” ideas.  Think of the change that could occur in America if we all decided to Love our spouse like Jesus loved the church.

What does that love look like.  I won’t do it justice but I’m going to butcher it anyways.  Make sure to start the pot of coffee in the morning eventhough I hate the smell of coffee in my house.  Get up at 6:30 in the morning to make sure that she has something good to take for lunch.  Clean up the house after a long shift at work.  Make sure to say, “I love you” first in the morning and last before you go to bed.  Love her when she despises all the things you’ve been doing for her.  Keep denying your own desires, because for some reason she isn’t quite happy yet and that comes first in my life.  Lastly, keep reading the Bible when it’s late at night and all you want to do is sleep.

I’ve noticed that Danielle and I have had some dry spots lately where we don’t feel too close to each other, and I blame that on my spiritual staleness (I don’t know if that’s a word or not, but it is now).  I haven’t been reading the Bible, or doing any devotionals, or talking with my wife about her relationship with God.  These are the things that I’ve realized will revitalize my relationship with her.

jerry_maguireI’m putting out the challenge to Husbands and Wives, Boyfriends and Girlfriends (eventhough I feel that “Love” is a word that is thrown around too much in the dating world), be the first to say I love you in the morning.  You can do that in a bunch of different ways.  You can actual say, “I love you”, or be the first to bless your spouse in the morning by making coffee or breakfast, making the bed, letting the other sleep in while your getting up, whatever it might be.  You can also start reading an encouraging marriage builder book, or the Bible in the morning.  You find your own way to “Love” your spouse.  Who’s coming with me?


It’s almost over!!

4 12 2008

The struggling with bills and worrying about making all of our payments is almost over.  Danielle has a month or so until she can take her state boards to become and RN and then she can start working again.  She’s been picking up shifts here and there as an ER Tech, but those days are over.  She just worked her last night precepting at Maryvale hospital in downtown Phoenix last night.  That marked the last night that she has to work for free.  I’m elated!!!

and-the-money-kept-rolling-coverNow, when Danielle starts working as an RN, we are going to be seeing alot more money coming in.  Herein lies the problem.  Like I’ve said before, I don’t want this to start ruining our life.  I don’t want to start getting all the new TV’s and clothes and all this other stuff, and yet we haven’t been able to do this for the past 2 years.  I haven’t been able to go buy a few pairs of pants and shirts without checking the bank account first.  I haven’t had pants worth more than 15 bucks in the last 4 years.  I know that how much they cost shouldn’t matter, but there is a quality difference.  I want to be able to go out to eat and not have to worry about what we’re ordering.  I also don’t want to buy a bottle of wine just because we can either.  Do you see the balance that is going to be tricky.

So here’s the deal.  I need some people to keep me accountable.  I need people to ask me why I have a new Rolex and Ferrari when they see me.  Better yet, don’t ask me where I got those, I don’t want to get you involved in my Shenanigans.  You know what I mean though.  I know that I’ll fall into the “American Dream” of spend, spend, spend if I’m not careful.