Hopelessly in Love…or Hopelessly in Marriage?

4 03 2008

I never thought about the statement “Hopelessly in Love” before now.  What does it really mean? There’s no hope in Love? Do you hope to get out of Love?  I just don’t get it. 

What do you do when you feel like your “Hopelessly in Marriage”?  As in, all hope is lost for a great marriage.  When things are kind of stale and one or both partners are tired of working at it.  What do you do?

I think that you need to start viewing things differently.  Check the alternatives for your life.  You could get a divorce, Hopefully find a “better Spouse” just to realize that they have the same if not worse problems.  Besides, you made a “COMMITMENT” to your current spouse.  So what do you do?  You need to have a renewing of your mind!

No matter what you can’t change your spouse, and besides would you really want to?  Think about when you first met, and think about the things that attracted you the most to them.  I almost guarantee it’s the same thing that annoy’s you the most now.  You need to make changes by leading.  Lead by example.  Be the first to say, “I love you” and the last to bless your spouse before you go to bed.  Then, get up the next morning and be the first to say, “I love you” again, regardless of whether or not your Significant Other (S.O.) returns the favor.  Remember that your Spouse doesn’t owe you a thing.  They don’t need to do anything for you.  IF you do this, ANYTHING your Spouse does for you is a BLESSING.

Once you start to do this, you’ll start to see things turn around.  Don’t expect it, but notice when it does happen.  Always HOPE that things will get better.  When you lose HOPE, it’s kind of like going into a pitch black cave with a flashlight.  You can’t see that far into the cave, but you can see enough to get to your next step.  As long as you can see your next step, and you know it’s safe, you can keep moving forward.  As soon as you drop that flashlight, your walking blind in a dangerous and dark place.  You don’t know where you’re going, or if your next step is safe or not.  When you’re in a dark point in your marriage, don’t drop the flashlight.  Just keep taking that next step and keep moving forward.  Before you know it you’re out of that cave, and your life is brighter and happier than ever. A Light in the Darkness




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