This is a difficult thing to try to tackle. It’s easy to say what’s the right way to go about things, but in the heat of the moment, nothing seems to make sense. I know that this is tough for alot of people. Sometimes even a deal breaker with non-Christians. “How could a good and loving God let this happen to good people?”
Let’s say a 17 year old little girl gets raped on her way home from school. How could this possible be ok or rationalized as a “good thing”? What if, this 17 year old girl, because of her circumstance, is able to help others who have gone through the same thing. She might be able to help 20 other girls who have gone through the this. Alot of times, people going through these issues don’t fully recover. Sometimes it ends in suicide. What if that 17 year old girl who was brutally raped and abused is able to help those other 20 girls into getting back onto their feet and showing them that this one event doesn’t have to ruin/take their life. It’s a bad, that we couldn’t possible understand how it could be used for good, and yet it can. It can be used as a way to share God with the hurt, lost, or broken. They could go on to live a life that they never would have been able to because they might not have seen the need for it before.
When you lose someone close to you, it’s hard to see that it’s a good thing. We never know the condition of the heart. Maybe by you losing someone, your uncle comes into town and you ask him to accompany you to church to just comfort you. When he’s their, maybe God is working on his heart and he gets saved. Then, from him getting saved, his kids and grandkids are saved. Maybe he’s the next Billy Graham. Let me ask you, who was the person who saved the person, who saved Billy Graham? I don’t know either. Through every little situation, we could help thousands of others.
Try to Trust that whatever happens, it can be used to glorify God. John 11:40 “Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the Glory of God” Believe that everything is in God’s hands and that is the best place for things to be.